Apr 12, 2011 | South Africa, Travel..ling Tuesdays
I never cease to be amazed at the way the sky is painted at sunset around here. Evening after evening and moment by moment, it’s as if the Creator has a thousand paintings prepared for a one-night-only gallery. They gradually and imperceptibly shift from one to the next, and it stirs my heart to consider how each moment passes, and never will be again.

A few nights ago Hero Hubs slipped out in the evening to capture some sunset shots, and as he returned with a camera full, I marvelled at how many different scenes there were, from a single spot on a single evening with a single camera. He commented that the picture changed so quickly he wanted to take another shot every moment.

{This is sunset at the new harbour in Gordon’s Bay, looking across False Bay toward Cape Town}

The heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky above proclaims his handiwork.
Psalm 19:1
Have you stood still to enjoy a good sunset lately? Happy Tuesday!
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Apr 11, 2011 | Stories, The Good Word
I played sports in high school, but I can’t particularly boast of great athletic feats from those days. I was at my strongest in the swimming pool — sprinting 50 and 100 metre freestyle, leading off or anchoring relays, and being urged by my coach to swim more butterfly than I cared to do. (It’s hard!!) But after four years on the team I was one of the fastest sprinters on the squad.
{Look at Hero Hubs doing butterfly! He was a really good swimmer.}
On the tennis court it was a different story. By my senior year, I barely squeaked into the top six. Where my brother and sister excelled with a racquet, I’m afraid even after four seasons I hadn’t the skill to move much past average.
I learned some completely different lessons when I took to playing soccer during my second year of high school. Where tennis and swimming and primarily individual sports, a soccer match is won or lost by a team — working together, or not. And one might not always get to contribute so much.
Up until my third and final year on the soccer team, I spent most of the games on the sidelines, keeping the bench good and warm on chilly spring evenings in North Carolina. Being more of a sprinter by nature, pushing myself for thirty minutes at a time on the field didn’t come naturally to me. I struggled to pace myself, always afraid to go harder. There were very few times when at the end of the game I felt like I’d truly “left it all out on the field.” And that wasn’t just because I wasn’t on the field much.
Ahem.
In one redeeming moment, during my last season, the coach put me on the field — perhaps feeling sorry for me, perhaps because the competition wasn’t particularly fierce, perhaps because he believed I had something to give. Even though I’d pulled my groin earlier in the season and had a bit of a funny run, my heart was hungry to excel and I finally wanted to push myself. As the game was coming to a close, one of the midfielders fed me a perfect pass and with all my heart and all my might, after three years of playing forward, I delivered a perfect kick and scored my first goal. My success was immediately followed by an almost Michael-Jackson-like move, where I reached toward my injury and cried out in pain — an incredibly unique celebratory move which some of my younger teammates continued to use when scoring goals for the next couple of years. Whoo-hoooo …. OUCH!
That perfect goal was the highlight of my soccer career, and for the briefest moment in time, I didn’t feel second string.
I’ve pondered the significance of benchwarming in the seasons since (though I can only say a soccer ball is at my feet these days when I’m playing with the Bear) and an encouraging thought has met me as time has passed:
God doesn’t have a second string.
There are areas in our lives where I think, especially when it comes to spiritual matters, a lot of us feel second string. We feel like we don’t have the gifts, the talents, or the abilities that God dished out to a lot of first string Christians. I can’t pray like her. I can’t preach like him. My singing voice should not be anywhere near a microphone. Scripture just doesn’t come to mind for me. When people need encouragement, I just feel like I never know what to say. {Pause here to insert your own inner voice’s mumblings.}
Some of us might even begin to think that for one reason or another, we aren’t good enough to receive spiritual gifts from God. I could never pray for someone to be healed and see it happen right then and there. God does sometimes give people “words of wisdom” to speak to others that they couldn’t have known unless it came from Him — but I am just not one of those people that He does that kind of stuff with.
Although Paul instructed us to “earnestly desire spiritual gifts” sometimes we aren’t really desirous of them, because we don’t think we are “spiritually good enough” to receive them.
But this is some Good News that I think a lot of us need to hear and take to heart (so I’m saying it again):
God doesn’t have a second string.
You — and I do mean, you, yes you — are an integral part of His story. Yes, you! He has gifts for you to bless other believers with. He has gifts for you to bless the world with. You might not be able to sing like a Disney princess or preach it like Billy Graham, but you might be in the right place at the right time to bless someone with a simple word of encouragement, with a listening ear or even with food you’ve grown in your garden. The prayers you pray behind closed doors could change nations. These are all worthy gifts. Someone had to be the person who shared Christ with Billy Graham — they planted a seed that has reaped ten thousandfold.
Whether you feel like it or not, you are a key player on God’s playing field. Sometimes you’re going to score the game winning goal. (Okay, in that instance we might’ve won by like six goals.) Sometimes you’re going to deliver the perfect assist to make that game-winning goal happen. Sometimes you’re going to be at the other end of the field, tending an unthreatened post with a hope and a prayer — but still playing a key role in winning the game.
I say it again because we all need to hear it again: God loves you. And you, yes, you, are an integral part of His story. Whether you believe it or not. {Even if you don’t believe in Him, He still has a plan He is hoping for you to walk out.}
If you spend too much time thinking about why you ought to be on the bench, you aren’t going to be ready when He needs you out on the field. So study hard. Read hard. Pray hard. Believe hard. Keep your eyes on Jesus and follow His lead. God created you for a purpose — and you will be more fulfilled than ever before, when you are ready and waiting, and you seize the opportunities life gives you to put a perfect kick through the posts.
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Apr 9, 2011 | The Good Word
Psalm 46:10 says

NKJV:
Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!
NLT:
Be silent and know that I am God! I will be honoured by every nation. I will be honoured throughout the world.
Bible in Basic English Version:
Be at peace in the knowledge that I am God: I will be lifted up among the nations, I will be honoured through all the earth.
New American Standard:
Cease striving and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.
And in many other translations, it is still the same: know.
Be still.
And know.
Not wonder if. Not think about whether. Just relax, and know.
May these words be a little good meat for the crockpot of your weekend.
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Apr 8, 2011 | The Good Word, The Parenthood
Warning: To my one dear friend and reader who is emetophobic, you might want to skip this post. Seriously.
We like pictures around here. You probably already knew that. And of all the pictures we have hanging up here and there, my favourites are always the 5 x 7’s. (How many centimetres that is, I’m not sure, but it’s a step larger than the standard size that’s called “jumbo” in SA.)

For some reason if I had to choose what photo is my favourite in each room, I would almost always choose one in a 5 x 7 frame, because the 5 x 7 pictures always seem like the perfect size. They are big enough to stand alone, but not overbearing when coupled with smaller frames or overwhelmed when paired with 8 x 10s. And they seem just the right size for giving adequate justice to a picture, where you can enjoy it from far away, but also come close and see a little more detail. A good picture frame can really complement the shot.
Like a perfectly sized picture frame, life sometimes seems to bring things into just the right frame for me, in the right timing, so that I see things from a good perspective. In this season, the frame that has perfectly encircled the photo of life for me has been one of thankfulness.
When the Bear joined our family, I was most certainly thankful, but I also struggled. I focused a lot on how little sleep we were getting. I focused on how hard the labour and birth and first two nights in the hospital were. {I really struggled to let that go.} I focused on how hard it was to breastfeed for the first time. I focused on how hard it was going to be when my Mom left Scotland and we had to jump into the ocean of parenthood just us two. The road to recovery from labour seemed like an un-ending, discouraging journey, and while I was very happy that we had been blessed with a child, I spent more time worried whether I was doing things right, how I was going to make it, discouraged and fearful, and not thankful.
Kind of a lot has changed in these two and a half years, even though the circumstances of this birth have been similar in some ways. We aren’t getting the sleep we might like to be getting. I’m still not fully recovered from the toll that labour tends to take on one’s body. And a few nights ago, a perfectly timed “fountain” during a diaper change watered a bowl of raisins, my late night snack sitting by the bed.
Yes, the baby peed on my raisins.
And the next night, after a day of burps and spit-ups from the little one, the Bear emptied his entire dinner onto his high chair, the table, my legs and flip flops and the floor. Immediately following dinner’s return to the table? The French Toast he had for lunch.
I had the idea that I’d enjoy a good soak in the tub with some nice bath stuff some friends gave me at the Baby Shower that night — I ended up sharing that tub with the Bear while I got us both cleaned up. We often comment on the surprising and sometimes shocking things we see outside our door around these parts with the acronym “T.I.A” — This Is Africa. That night was born a new acronym: T.I.P. — This Is Parenthood.
While things still seem a little crazy, we’re much more relaxed with a newborn in the house this time ’round. Breastfeeding has been easier and less painful, and we’ve had lots more help — which has been absolutely wonderful since there are two little ones to juggle. I think we’re getting more sleep than we did at this stage last time, and I think this little one might just be a little easier to handle, mayhaps.
And while these things have helped shape the experience of welcoming our second child into the world, I don’t think any of them is the number one factor contributing to the way I am perceiving my circumstances this time. You see, during the past two and a half years, I’ve had some heart-wrenching conversations with two couples that HH and I are close to who are walking the road of infertility right now. They’re couples that love each other and love God, and I think they’d make far better parents than most — they are just wonderful, incredible people. And while infertility was the subject of discussion for my Master’s Thesis in Edinburgh, it has only become real since I have begun to understand it through the lenses of these friendships.
I’ve wept with these friends and for these friends in the midst of this struggle. They rejoiced with us at the birth of the Bear, and now at the birth of Baby Brother. And their experiences have put my life into a fresh perspective and helped me to recognise that while I might like to complain about the hard stuff…sleepless nights, soggy raisins and barf…I now better understand the privilege that parenthood is. Our time with these little ones is precious, and too special to waste being frustrated when life gets out of control.
When we’re instructed to number our days, or we take time to count our blessings, I think we begin to train our hearts to put the right frame around the lives we are living. Everything may not be perfect. Everything probably isn’t easy. But if you have a place to live and food to eat, I think those are good places to start, with a heartful of thanks.
Finding the right frame enhances the beauty of the picture. What’s framing the photo of your life right now?
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Apr 7, 2011 | Baby Photos, The Parenthood
My sister sent the Bear some delightful clothes when he was born. Really adorable stuff. And those delightful clothes are beginning to get a second go-round with Baby Brother right now. It’s a good effort at recycling to save the planet, and I’ve never heard a baby complain about what they were wearing, unless it was wet. We are loving the hand-me-downs.
One of my favourite things she sent was this onesie, sported here by the Bear at approximately Seven Weeks of Age:

As we’ve pulled clothes out for their second go-round, we’ve noticed that items that were suitable for the Bear at certain ages seem to be.. er, um… suitable for Baby Brother much sooner. {And there are several things he was actually never small enough to wear.} So we thought you might enjoy a little comparison.
Here’s the Bear swimming in the onesie in question at seven weeks, and Baby Brother, filling it out in the middle at…four.

{We don’t often take pictures of our wee ones in tears. We just had a giggle when the Bear was upset on this particular day because we thought one three-letter word had been left off the onesie. Can you guess which one?}
Last night at the dinner table, HH encouraged the Bear to eat everything on his plate because Baby Brother will be catching up soon! We’re now accepting offers for American football scholarships. Tarheels and Wolfpack need not apply. Are there rugby bursaries in SA?
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P.S. Thanks again, sister, for a gift that keeps on giving! 🙂